American Trends in Marriage: Two-Thirds of Divorces from Low Conflict Marriages
Romantic love and marriages based on that ideal are highly transient things. In asking whether humdrum marriages that lack the romantic spark are good for children, marriage researcher Elizabeth Marquardt answers affirmatively and observes that two-thirds of divorces come from low-conflict families.
In a word, yes. Granted, we all want that spark, and we shouldn't resign ourselves to living without it, even if it means getting help and working hard at falling in love with our spouse all over again. And some marriages are plagued by such serious problems -- such as addiction, chronic infidelity, or violence -- that divorce might well be warranted. But social science research shows that about two-thirds of marriages that end in divorce are low conflict. These marriages may feel troubled to the one or both of the spouses, but they are not struggling with the kinds of serious or frequent conflict many imagine when they picture a marriage on the rocks.
"Why Your 'Good Enough' Marriage Is Good for Your Kids," 12 Nov. 2010, Huffington Post, 14 Nov. 2010 <http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elizabeth-marquardt/...>